You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 9781588365217
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Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives. “Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle From the Hardcover edition.

You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Large Print Publishing
ISBN: 0739326023
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A study of the mother-daughter relationship examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other's point of view.

You re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 081297266X
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A study of the mother-daughter relationship examines aspects of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of other points of view.

You Were Always Mom s Favorite

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 0345496973
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Explores the connections among sisters throughout their childhood years into adulthood, including competitiveness, age differences, and lifelong friendships.

I Only Say This Because I Love You

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House Digital, Inc.
ISBN: 0345407520
Format: PDF, Mobi
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A guide to communicating better within families explains how to untie the knots that often hamper important discussions and how to enhance personal relationships among family members by understanding the art of conversation and listening.

You re the Only One I Can Tell

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 1101885815
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This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 bestselling author of You Just Don’t Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships. Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women’s friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor—or she can be all of these at once. She’s seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends—with the best intentions—can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen’s signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains • the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice—or just listen • how women use talk to connect to friends—and to subtly compete • how “Fear of Being Left Out” and “Fear of Getting Kicked Out” can haunt women’s friendships • how social media is reshaping communication and relationships Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You’re the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women’s friendships—how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better. Praise for Deborah Tannen You’re Wearing THAT?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation “Tannen doesn’t just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations.”—San Francisco Chronicle “Tannen has a gifted ear for the meaning behind the words. She helps us hear what we are really saying.”—The Baltimore Sun “The effect of [Tannen’s] anecdotes and analysis is to reassure her readers that they are not alone.”—The Wall Street Journal “[This] book might help all of us open our eyes.”—Chicago Sun-Times You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation “Utterly fascinating . . . a classic in the field.”—San Francisco Chronicle “Refreshing and readable . . . vivid examples and lively prose.”—The New York Times Book Review “Tannen has a marvelous ear for the way real people express themselves, and a scientist’s command of the inner structures of speech and human relationships.”—Los Angeles Times

You Don t Really Know Me Why Mothers and Daughters Fight and How Both Can Win

Author: Terri Apter
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN: 039328574X
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Understand what your teenage daughter really means—and learn to use your arguments to strengthen your bond with her. Mothers and teenage daughters argue more than any other child-parent pair—on average every two-and-a-half days. These quarrels, Terri Apter shows, are attempts to negotiate changes in a relationship that is valued by both mothers and daughters. A daughter often feels her mother doesn't know or understand her, and by fighting hopes to force her mother into a new awareness of who she really is, how she has changed, and what she is now capable of doing and understanding. But mothers often misinterpret their daughter's outbursts as signs of rejection, and they may pull back feeling hurt and confused. Through case studies and conversations between mothers and daughters, Apter shows mothers how to interpret the meanings behind a daughter's angry words and how to emerge from arguments with a new closeness.

Talking from 9 to 5

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0380717832
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Your project went off without a hitch--but somebody else got the credit...You averted a crisis brilliantly--but no one noticed...You came to the meeting with a sensational idea--but it was ignored until someone else said the same thing... HOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT & GET AHEAD? In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don't Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace--where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women's and men's conversational rituals--and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed--an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women.

You Just Don t Understand

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0062210092
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Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

The Mother Daughter Connection

Author: Susie Shellenberger
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
ISBN: 1418516430
Format: PDF, Kindle
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The Mother Daughter Connection is a book designed to help mothers form intimate, working relationships with their daughters by giving mothers an insider's view of their daughters' thoughts and feelings. The editor of Brio magazine for girls and a veteran youth expert, Susie Shellenberger helps mothers understand the angst and confusion teen girls feel when coping with such issues as body image, fashion envy, dating, fear of failure, and sharing one's faith. With creative questions, conversation starters, and diary entries, mothers are given the tools to not only help their daughters, but also to learn the "stuff they gotta know" to help their daughters survive the teenage years.